Top 6 Quotes by Sue Johnson

Love has an immense ability to help heal the devastating wounds that life sometimes deals us. Love also enhances our sense of connection to the larger world. Loving responsiveness is the foundation of a truly

Love has an immense ability to help heal the devastating wounds that life sometimes deals us. Love also enhances our sense of connection to the larger world. Loving responsiveness is the foundation of a truly compassionate, civilized society.

Sue Johnson

Foundation, Connections, World

Sue Johnson (2011). “Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships”, p.9, Hachette UK

Being the “best you can be” is really only possible when you are deeply connected to another. Splendid isolation is for planets, not people.

Sue Johnson

People, Isolation, Being The Best

Naming an emotion begins the process of regulating it and reflecting on it.

Sue Johnson

Emotion, Process, Reflecting

Sue Johnson (2014). “The Love Secret: The revolutionary new science of romantic relationships”, p.43, Hachette UK

The most functional way to regulate difficult emotions in love relationships is to share them.

Sue Johnson

Love Relationship, Way, Emotion

In insecure relationships, we disguise our vulnerabilities so our partner never really sees us.

Sue Johnson

Insecure, Partners, Disguise

Sue Johnson, Kenneth Sanderfer (2016). “Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples”, p.83, Hachette UK

When love doesn't work, we hurt. Indeed, “hurt feelings” is a precisely accurate phrase, according to psychologist Naomi Eisenberger of the University of California. Her brain imaging studies show that rejection and exclusion trigger the same circuits in the same part of the brain, the anterior cingulate, as physical pain.

Sue Johnson

Hurt, Pain, California

Sue Johnson, Kenneth Sanderfer (2016). “Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples”, p.29, Hachette UK