We don't really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped ... We suffer, therefore we think.
Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
Love is an incurable disease. In love, there is permanent suffering. Those who love and those who are happy are not the same.
One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.